A Working Marriage Many of us grow up with dysfunctional or absent marriages. Statistically speaking you are not supposed to be married. You are not even supposed to want to be married. You were not even supposed to get married. And you are certainly not supposed to be in this room trying to have a better marriage. Followed up with "that workshop will never work. Marriages do not get better at workshops." But here you are. Whether you came because she threatened you or he has already moved out, you have decided to fight for a future that you have never seen an example of. Being here takes courage, in front of all these people who have similar issues as you: their marriage is likewise broken and in need of encouragement. The more important similarity is that you are here, you have decided that the time you spend here is worth it to enhance your marriage, and you are invested at a high level. Your presence says that your marriage matters to you! When you consider the word legacy, it is defined as anything handed down from the past. Sometimes legacy is associated with money. How many of us will inherit anything other than debt? Not many but we have all inherited some family and its issues and activities. All of which add up to the legacy you have. Some of us have never seen a successful marriage. Others of us have never seen a healthy marriage. Still others of us have never even seen a marriage in our families. Needless to say, we are up against incredible odds! So based on the legacy we have, we should not even know what marriage is. We are not destined to have a great marriage. But you have taken it upon yourself to challenge that legacy, your personal lineage, to change the course of that legacy spoke unto us, just by you being here. The fact that you showed up is enough notification that you are considering a different present and legacy. The legacy we create involves an element of change that requires work. Marriage is hard work! Make no mistake! It is daily work! No breaks! No vacations! No time-outs! The first step to establishing the legacy you desire is to remember what your spouse needs from you, expects from you, and gives to you through their lives, their heart, their sacrifices, their energy, their time, and their talent. Your spouse does things that they have never done as a spouse and they give more of themselves than they ever had. Do not take your spouse for granted. Emotional neglect happens in marriages daily because we assume that our