But because no one likes to think of themselves as a victim, too often we miss the red flags that signal patterns of abuse in our relationships. "...but that's not me" helps us identify the traps, both systemic and personal, that keep us locked in patterns of interpersonal abuse, so we can escape the traps we're in, avoid falling into new ones, and serve as effective allies to those in need.

Following one journey into, through, and beyond domestic abuse--a single storyline that weaves the voices of multiple women into one--the reader will learn how to differentiate between types of abuse, recognize abusive patterns, find the courage to leave, handle the aftermath, prevent unhealthy patterns from reoccurring, and heal from the compounded trauma of abuse and its ongoing fallout.

Readers of this book will learn:

• How to identify abuse
• An in-depth examination of all types of abuse
• How to break the cycle of abuse
• How to be a good ally to yourself and others

Anyone can experience abuse, but no one should have to go it alone. Let the collective wisdom of all the abuse survivors who collaborated to bring you this empowering guidebook surround and support you on your journey to wholeness.