What do you do when your apparently heterosexual Christian spouse reveals they are gay or same-sex attracted? The revelation leads to a shattering of the heterosexual spouse, especially if they have been married a long time. Deception: Revelation to Release Responses to My Secret Gay Spouse by Deborah Nottingham opens a personal view on her journey of deception from revelation to release. The first three months of this event are told from her raw journals at the time and her look back as a restored woman. Deception is the core issue, not the homosexuality. Her search for answers to her marital issues begins with her view that divorce is not acceptable for her as a Christian, even as the marriage disintegrates.

Women are not to blame for cheating spouses. While he cannot choose his sexual orientation, deception is a decision for which he alone must take responsibility. (Tim Rymel, M.Ed., Rethinking Everything and Going Gay)