Take Back Your Power: How to Overcome Procrastination, Low Self-Esteem, Negative Self-Talk, and Self-Defeating Behavior
When you throw a pebble into a pond, you can see the ripples long after the pebble has vanished from sight. It's the same with our experiences. Many seemingly small events in our lives-finding out that your best friend spread rumors about you, being criticized by a teacher in front of the class-are actually forms of everyday trauma. They can cause ripples that are felt far down the stream of time-even when you don't remember what caused the ripples in the first place. These events can have profound effects on your thoughts, feelings and behaviors even many years later.
One of the major consequences of everyday trauma is the formation of the critical voice, that nagging, judgmental little "imp" we give free rent to in our heads. As you'll learn in the book, we create this part of ourselves in early childhood to be a helper. Unfortunately, as we grow up, the critical voice stays a child-so it tries to solve our adult problems with childlike solutions. Instead of helping, it often winds up making our difficulties even worse.
Dr. Lynn Karjala is a licensed psychologist with over 30 years of experience in treating trauma. While working with some of the most severe cases of PTSD, she made an important discovery: milder, "everyday" distressing events can cause the same pattern of symptoms as PTSD, but scaled down into much more subtle forms. Because the effects are not as obvious, people often brush them off and minimize them by asking, "Why am I making such a big deal out of this?" without realizing that what they're experiencing are actual symptoms of trauma.
Who is this book for?You are motivated to make a positive change but just can't seem to make it happenYou have trouble speaking up for yourself because of low self-esteem or lack of confidenceYou have feelings of shame, guilt or failure you haven't been able to shake, no matter how much you've accomplishedYou have memories of being criticized, rejected, bullied or betrayed that are still painful years laterYou find yourself getting upset or angry without understanding whyYou begin to make progress and then sabotage yourself
This book will help you tolearn creative, easy-to-use techniques to heal these everyday traumastake your power back from your critical voicerepair the impact of everyday trauma on many areas of your life, such as low self-esteem, trust issues, grief