This book isn't about fixing sexless marriages - it talks about how painful and soul-destroying it is to be in one. There are millions of people trapped in sexless marriages with "refusers" and this book describes exactly how it can feel for the refused spouse to be in a sexless relationship. A sexless marriage is no laughing matter - it is an incredibly painful situation to be caught up in and there is little relief until you finally fight your way clear of the strangling grip of a refuser and learn how to live again. But even in our pain, we can sometimes poke fun at ourselves and a bit of rueful laughter now and then does help relieve some of the sheer misery of the day-to-day grind of living with a refuser. So I include this to try and lighten the mood just a tiny bit and if you can get a chuckle out of it from time to time - or even if it hits a little too close to home - just realize that you are not alone out there. Covered in this book: - Decide to stay or leave - Mourning the spouse you needed - Reasons for a sexless marriage - Red flags - Setting ourselves free ......and much more!