We work hard to build human connections and understanding. Empathy seems like a perfect tool to build our relationships. We feel pain when we see a loved one in pain. We feel joy when we see a family member graduating. Empathy seems to make sense. Empathy should be okay on the surface, but it's a train wreck. Our egos have pushed us to the point where it is detrimental. Instead of growing connections, it acts as a wedge. Instead of a deeper understanding of others, it causes us to focus on ourselves.